Building Resilience as You Come Full Circle

by María Tomás-Keegan | Change, Women in Transition

When life events rock your world it is difficult to think straight and move through the emotional roller coaster without getting thrown out of your seat.  Learning to rely on past experience so you can meet adversity with endurance takes practice.  Unfortunately, the...

Stuck In Your Story? What Does It Cost You?

by María Tomás-Keegan | Change, Divorce, Life Transitions, Self-confidence, Stuck, Women in Transition, Worry

One of my stories was, “I’m divorced twice.  I’m a failure at relationships.  I can’t trust myself to make good decisions.  If I’m a failure in life, I can’t possibly be successful in my career.”  And on and on, like an endless loop of irrational negative thoughts...

3 Steps Toward a New Comfort Zone after Divorce

by María Tomás-Keegan | Comfort Zone, Divorce, Transitions, Women in Transition

I awoke this grey winter morning feeling as dreary as the weather outside. I had a meeting with my staff to prepare for a critical client presentation—our relationship depended on it. With the meeting about to start, I couldn’t get my head in the game. My emotions...

My Divorce Is Not My Failure

by María Tomás-Keegan | Divorce, heal, Self-care, Transitions, Women, Women in Transition

Finally. It’s quiet. Bright orange leaves are blowing off the trees as I look out the large windows of my living room. There’s a chill in the air. I’m not sure if it’s because it’s November or because he just moved out. No matter the reason, I needed to warm my space....

What I Learned From Divorce

by María Tomás-Keegan | Divorce, Transitions, Women in Transition

Not just one divorce, but two.  I’d like to share an essay I wrote that was recently published in BetterAfter50.com. I was the first in my family to be divorced. It took me six months to muster the courage to tell them the marriage was over. I’ll never forget...

Are You Afraid of Feeling Lonely?

by María Tomás-Keegan | Choices, Divorce, Loneliness, Women in Transition

What does feeling lonely mean to you? Are you friendless? Do you have no one to turn to? Have you been abandoned? Are you unloved or unwanted? These seem a bit dramatic, don’t they? It’s how the dictionary defines loneliness. Many women going through divorce do feel...